Freedom of expression or mindless chatter?

".....the Supreme Court Friday said that “right to free speech cannot mean that a citizen can defame the other”.

A bench of Justices Dipak Misra and P C Pant approved the Constitutional validity of sections 499 and 500 (criminal defamation) in the Indian Penal Code, underlining that an individual’s fundamental right to live with dignity and reputation “cannot be sullied solely because another individual can have his freedom”.

A couple of days ago a lady poached into my son's fb account and left some unsavoury remarks on his posts. We could not understand who she was and her purpose for defaming and slandering us, till we went to her account and found her identity. I got upset about some comments where she directly accused me of certain things. It was apalling, to say the least. I posted a message on my fb page and addressed it to her by name. All my friends may have read it. You all must have read her reply/ies too. And you must have gone through my final post to her. She is relentless and has been posting some very poisonous comments on my son's fb account. 

The internet is a boon in all ways. However, the easy accesibility and navigational ways can sometimes be a curse. See how easily this woman has been poaching on us, going through our fb, blogs; hijacking friends from our list. She has called me a cheat, liar, hypocrite and also hinted at my character and God knows what else. Does this amount to defamation or no? 

All this because our case has been restored, which had been surreptiously dismissed without even letting us know, while we were still living in Delhi. I had a very simple question for the legal system, but the crafty lawyer wrote what he had to write saying these are legal languages which I would not understand. I still have the same simple question - Is the certified deed of settlement in my name legal and binding? Do the words "streedhon" and "irrevocable" hold any water? The lawyers and the court continued the case from 2006, our lawyer suddenly called up to say he does not want to fight my case. My son came down to Calcutta to collect the papers. Later I came to Calcutta, found a lawyer and came to know my previous lawyer had no representation done in 90 percent of the dates given by the court. I went back to Delhi and when we came to Calcutta for good in 2012 end, we cooled our heels till the Calcutta courts opened after a long holiday. Surprise! The case had been dismissed and we were not even aware. We have been trying to restore the case from 2013 and now a couple of days earlier we have been told it has been restored by the court. It is cheering but at what cost!

The opponent, mainly Rooma De, is using her younger brother's daughter-in-law to call me names, slander my credibility on a public forum. Rooma is a master in spreading rumours, threatening indirectly, slandering people through third parties. Now she has found a nice tool, who is computer savvy and willing to bite more than she can chew. It is sheer desperation.

I should have been wiser and ignored this young lady's comments from the beginning. I made a mistake.    

I am sharing this blog on fb as I know my fb friends must have had a rude shock when they saw the comments and posts. I do not need to explain myself or defend myself to anyone, yet I owe this much to my longstanding friends. Washing dirty laundry in public is not exactly my style. Unfortunate. 

The only thing that keeps coming back - is where and who decides the bar has been crossed as far the supreme court ruling on defamation is concerned. Or is this all mindless chatter, meaningless noise made by desperate humans?  

Bablan and Bhumba - 2

Just a small continuation of the last post. I forgot to add a few things.
Bablan was born on 9th September, 1971.
Bhumba was born on 22nd July 1972.
Bhumba was always the smarter of the two and Bablan was the good one, as the first borns usually are. Bhumba was terriby naughty and mischievious; he escaped reprimand or punishment easily. You know how? Simple. He would disappear from the "crime" scene and leave Bablan with the evidence of his mischief. Bablan never understood what was happening. Never. He would be the one to get the shouting or scolding, while Bhumba was hiden some place else. Till such time that the naughty one was caught  one fine day. He broke the mirror from Bishu mama's bike and was coolly passing it on to Bablan, who would be left standing with the broken pieces. Hahaha! What fun. All kids are the same.
Bumba and Vimto were thick as thieves. Both had the silent, mischievious nature. I remember that day in 1977, before Pussycat was born. It was ladies' day at the centre and Rooma, Swapna and I were inside taking the class. In those days we had curtains at the gate, which opened to the lawn in the middle and one could see straight into Rooma's house. Yoshodhara Behen from Ahemdabad had come to spend her holidays with her guruji and us, as usual. She was a Hindi teacher with St.Xaviers, Ahmedabad. Yashodhara was there on the second floor and had gone to take her evening bath. Baba was either still to go up for his tea or had finished, can't remember. The curtains were fluttering inside the classroom when one lady close to the curtains shouted "fire". All of us turned to her and then looked up to where she was pointing. The green tarpaulin blinds on the second floor were on fire. The first thought was the boys were probably there and so run, run to save them. By the time Rooma, Swapna, I and some other teachers came running, we found Baba laughing and scolding at the same time.  Laughing because Yasodhara panicked inside the bathroom and came out "as is" condition. Scolding whom? The two culprits were standing in the extreme corner of the small balcony and I tell you, the expressions on their faces was priceless. Both Bhumba and Vimto had some fascination for fire, don't know why. They had been warned, scolded many a times. Somehow, Bhumba had got hold of the match box from the kitchen and then both of them hid under the long tarpaulin cover to do some testing, if you please. Well rest is history. The blinds was more than half burned. What is amazing is that Bhumba and Vimto had the sense to cower down to the ground to save themselves. Thank God they were unscathed.
The following are two instances of Rooma's punishment method.
Bablan, yes Bablan, must have been about 2-3 yars old and got into some mischief (naturally). Rooma had the freehand to override the elders in most matters and it was the same in this case. She had Bablan locked up in the first floor bathroom without any light for a couple of hours. This was at 4/2 Rammohan Roy Road house, now more popular as the Ghosh Yoga College. Some of you who have gone and stayed there in recent times will be aware of this particular bathroom. Of course, modifications and updations have been done over the years.  In those days, this bathroom used to always look like a dark cavernous giant waiting to swallow you. I, myself never went in and always sped by when I had to cross it. I remember it as a terrifying place. There was just a small window outlet on the opposite wall, from where you could understand the difference between night and day. You know those windows you see in stark prison cells? Well once you closed the door and without light even the strongest of hearts would miss a beat or more. Bablan went through that punishment.  Whether it left any emotional scars ---??????
This happened in New Alipore. Pussycat was born and more mishcievious, naughty and smarter than her four elder brothers. But she was also a girl and so loved to watch her pishi (Rooma) dress up. It used to be a treat for her if Rooma would let her in the room (first floor) and feast her eyes on all those things laid out on her pishi's dressing table. It so happened one day, the maid Kamini (found her working for Swapna in 1997), took Pussy with her into Rooma's room, when she was not there. Well, how can a girl of 2-3 years let the chance go by!  she played with her pishi's bindi set and may have displaced them. When Rooma came back in the late afternoon and checked with the maid, she sent her upstairs to call Pussy down immediately. By this time, of course, all five kids were fast asleep. Having their afternoon nap. I told the maid I will send Pussy down when she gets up. Rooma sent back the maid with the message that Pussy must be awakened right now and sent down. Swapna, who was there with me, said do it or else there will be hell to pay. So a drowsy Pussy was pulled down the stairs to be punished for having touched Rooma's bindi set. When I came down to see what was happening Rooma sternly told me to stay out of it and Pussy would be standing facing a wall corner for one hour as punishment.        
I remember Baba telling me once - I know I have to live for another 20 years at least because I have to bring up these monkeys (grandchildren) and put them on track."  I too had the same dream that all the four boys would be brought up well and take the yoga institute to the next level. All that was shattered and Rooma became the surveyor of all. Amen.

Bablan and Bhumba

Yes, these are the two sons of Arun Bose, younger brother of Ashok Bose. I have a photo of both the boys with Hyama San when they were in Tokyo. I simply cannot find it now.
It was 1973 or 1974 when Arun went off to Tokyo to teach yoga at Hanari San's centre. I think it was mid 1975 when he requested that his wife, Swapna and his two boys come to him. I remember Baba taking me aside one afternoon to ask me something. He asked - "What should I do? Should I let Swapna go with the kids?"  The only other grandchild then was Icecream, my eldest son, and Mamoni was very attached to all her grandchildren. She simply doted on them. Yet I told Baba what I felt from my heart - "Every girl marries with a dream of running her own home with husband and kids. I am sure Swapna does the same. Why not let her go and live independently with her husband in Tokyo?" Mind you it was my thought, but I had seen Swapna so happy ever since that phone call came from Arun. Okay eventually, Arun sent the tickets and completed the formalities and Swapna flew off to Japan with Bablan and Bhumba.  
1976, at New Alipore, Baba read out a few letters from Swapna. I shall not go into the details because they will surely upset some sentiments. Well, ultimately, Swapna returned from Tokyo with the boys. I was told that Arun was suffering from tuberculosis and the Japanese doctors had given up hope. TB? Not curable in 1976? And that too in Japan?
I forgot to mention this. Even before they arrived, Baba sat down and consulted with me as to which school to admit the boys. After much brain-racking it was decided Nava Nalanda was the best choice. Next day I was sent off to the school at the tip of Southern Avenue. By the time I came out I had already got Bablan and Bhumba admitted into the school, even without the candidates being present. Yes this a grace of God that I have always been successful in my pursuits, without any name dropping or money incentive. More on that in a some other blog.
Coming back to the story, soon after Swapna and the boys came back ( I was still living with my two sons on the third floor of the main building, the entire building was on lease to Reserve Bank for its officers), I heard Arun was coming back for good. He came and hardly lived for 15 days. No one was allowed to go near him or talk to him. Bhabani (she was the Nepali maid I had appointed with Mamoni's permission when Icecream was just born) would set his food at the door for him to pick it up. First few days Arun lived in the second floor room of Rooma's house, later he was shifted to the room behind the office in the ground floor.
I never saw Arun vomitting blood or showing any signs of TB. Yet he was totally secluded. I remember a Kasmiri shawl-walla came in-between and so did a typical bengali puja sari-walla. Baba chose a shawl for me, I still have it. When it came to sari, I chose a typical "garoder sari" with the red border. I was picking up one for Swapna, when she said in bengali - Ami oke khorchar khaitai like rekehchi. Ami ota nobo na." I was shocked. This was said in the presence of the father of the man she was referring to. Yes, isn't it funny that some instances and words get ingrained into the brain and you wonder why!
Those 15 odd days I became very friendly with Arun, because I insisted I would visit him and talk to him everyday. Of course, Rooma threw a tantrum and influenced her father to object, too. I was threatened that I would get the contagious disease and so would my two sons. I was willing to take the risk.  Oh we used to chat so many things. First he would address me as Tutubowdi and aapni. Soon I became Tutudi and tui. We had lots of laughter, discussed drawings, sketching, painting, artists. Arun was a great sketch artist and I was steeped in it from childhood. My ideal was Pablo Picasso. hahaha! In one of those days I left to visit the jain temple alone. I sat there and drew the temple from a platform oiutside the main temple. That is where I also met the wife of the Japanese Consul General, who I had taught yoga for sometime. She recognised me before I did. It was splendid. Anyway, when I came home and showed the sketch to all, Arun was very appreciative. I remember he was sitting under the jamrul tree in front of the office - it was late afternoon. I wonder if Bablan remembers the jamrul tree his grandmother had planted for her grandchildren. Very sweet fruits.
I remember packing lunch boxes for the boys - Bablan, Bhumba, Icecream and Vimto. Getting the kids ready for school, making them drink their milk - you know the usual. My sons were attending the local St,John's , right across the road.
How Arun died is another story for later.
Bablan and Bhumba used to go for tuition to Kumkumdi next door. I believe later both of them were admitted to some other school due to poor performance. Wonder how! Both were very bright kids and Bhumba was terrifically sharp. After my marriage to Ashok, Bhumba got attached to me and would tell everybody - ami Tutr chhele. Ami Jethur chhele." Hahaha!
Bhumba had thick black hair and very thick lashes, i see he still has. Once I remember I was lying down next to him in the aftrrnoon when I saw some white ant-like things roaming around his lashes. I was alarmed and immediately called Mamoni to come and see, as he was fast asleep. They were white lice! Of course, medical action was taken immediately and we got rid of them. We were all so scared that his eyes do not get affected. Thank God everything was okay.
Both Bablan and Bhumba were quite alarmed when I had my first-born. Now I understand they thought now Tutu (yes they used to call me by my petname) will not love us as before. So natural when we are small and have siblings coming in the way. My brother and I had the same fears when our sister was born. What if Mama does not love us any more? But it passes with time in due course. I have so many photos of them holding on to me or Icecream, all taken by Bishu mama.